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Making A Quick First Impression Speed Dating Made Easy! Next Event: Wednesday, December 10th Lime @ the Landmark 5425 Landmark Place Greenwood Village, CO 80202 5:30PM to 8PM 1. Your date will last anywhere from 3 to 6 minutes depending on the event. First impressions can make or break your experience. Make sure that you dress appropriately (nice casual or business casual – if coming from work) is usually perfect. No t-shirts, etc. Be well-groomed, people appreciate it when you put some time into your appearance for these events. Bring some breath mints to increase your confidence. 2. Turn off your cell phone! You will be engaged in many lively conversations for short periods of time. You don’t want to be distracted by a ringing phone – it also makes a bad impression. 3. Smile! Be interested! 4. Relax and have fun, no matter what. Be in the moment and be determined to leave all expectations at the door and just enjoy yourself! Decide before you get there to have a great time and you will have a great time – guaranteed! 5. You will receive your results by private email so you can feel free to mark your scorecard without any reservations. 6. Arrive and check in early to mingle and get in on the drink specials before you begin speed dating. You will have time to relax before the dating begins. 7. If you come with friends, don’t sit near one another! You will be tempted to eavesdrop or engage in multiple conversations at once, which would defeat the purpose. 8. Make sure to compliment everyone you meet by stating how nice it was to meet them! 9. If you are unsure how to mark your scorecard for a particular individual, mark them as a “yes” and keep the door open, you never know! 10. Don’t take too many notes. Your eyes will be on your paper rather than on your date and they will get the impression that you are not interested even if you are. Mark down something unusual about a job or comment that will jog your memory about them and then enjoy the conversation. 11. Keep the conversation light! This is just an introduction, not an entire date. Subjects to keep off limits include: past relationships, frustrations or annoyances, traffic, weather, etc. You might want to think up some conversational questions that you can ask each date that are light and fun. (aka “If we could be sitting anywhere in the world right now, where would you like to

Everything in the universe is created by one original substance. This formless substance or energy is neutral. It is the thought applied upon this substance that creates the thing that is imagined by the thought. Since you are thinking source, you can create anything you desire. There is an unlimited storehouse of love and abundance that this substance provides. Many of those who struggle with relationships tend to apply negative thoughts about love into this energy and ultimately create more loneliness, lack and fear of losing the one we adore. You can attract true love by changing your thoughts and working with this amazing formless substance that creates all. This formless creative substance is referred to as God, universal energy, life force and other names that may fit with your personal belief system. Limited v. Creative Mind We tend to look at our life in two ways. One way is to see things as they are and believe we have no power to change them. We have a strong habit of looking at our current situation, making decisions about them based on past circumstances and recreate the situation over and over again. This is working with your limited mind or habitual way of thinking. This type of thinking leads to competition, fear, scarcity and grasping in relation to love and relationships. The other way to look at life is to see beyond how things are and believe in the possibility of what they can become. The truth is that there is an unlimited source of love in the world. When you think of everything around you as becoming or in possibilities of growth and expansion, you are using the creative mind. This creative mind tends to push beyond perceived limitations and create opportunities and loving relationships. In order to use the creative mind more effectively, you need to change the limited beliefs in your conditioned mind. By changing your inner beliefs and shifting the habits of thinking to possibilities, openness and endless opportunities, you can attract the partner of your dreams. Power of the Mind Most people do not realize that their entire life is run by their conditioned mind. You think almost the same thoughts every single day that keeps you stuck in your limited way of being. The conditioned mind is the pattern of thought you bring from the past. Your mind tends to be consistent with your beliefs and emotional responses to external stimulation. It is the source of the habit of thinking that either drives or repels love. Your mind gathered information about your self-worth and lovability throughout your life, especially in childhood when you took things literally and made up ideas about yourself from the mind of a child. Those old ideas are still operating in your inner mind and become the foundation of almost all of your belief systems. This process begins at conception, through all nine months of pregnancy, birth experience and all childhood experiences. You have evidence of these deep beliefs as you go through life, but sometimes are not aware of them. You sometimes feel like you are “acting like a child” because your conditioned mind is running your actions, reactions and interpretations of issues that arise. Most of dating and relationship issues were created because of ideas you learned about love, family, gender roles and marriage in your childhood from your parents, friends and teachers. If you want something and it is not showing up in your life, your conditioned mind is not in agreement with receiving it. For example, if you want a loving partnership and you consistently seem to struggle in dating or have “bad luck” with men or women, you probably have beliefs that are not in alignment with love. It is important to understand that conditioned mind isn’t logical but has an amazing power over your life. Everyone and everything in your life is a mirror of your mind and this hard-wired pattern of thinking can be changed if you follow the Creative Mind Method. Shifting to a New Experience of Love There are many ways to shift from old limited patterns of being to expand into the creative mind of love. 1. Uncover false beliefs operating in your unconscious mind. A great exercise is to write down one or more of these stem sentence and finish it over and over to get all the junk out on paper: “The reason I don’t have a healthy relationship is because….” -or “If I had a happy relationship, I would….” 2. Flood your mind with new ideas about love and relationships. Self-hypnosis is the best way to change your limited mind. Did you know that it takes 1,000 affirmations to match the power of just one suggestion in hypnosis? That is because in the alpha state you are more able to accept new positive statements about yourself. Hypnosis creates immediate results! 3. Instead of focusing exclusively on your external appearance, shift your energy to watching your thoughts and speech. With every action you take, do it in a way that is in alignment with your will for true love. 4. Practice meditation and learn to quiet your mind to be present in the moment. (This step will help you master step number 3). 5. Don’t think in terms of competition or lack – there is plenty of love to go around. The perfect partner for you is out there. If someone you love turns to another, know that the void will be replaced with someone truly right for you. 6. Do not get discouraged no matter how long it takes for your love to arrive in your life. Be patient and let go. Keep holding the vision of your dream for a happy relationship regardless of external conditions. Copyright 2008. All Rights Reserved. Inner Awareness Media, LLC - AttractLoveToday.com

Listen to the replay of the Love Coach Show this week when we discussed Dating Blunders and what to do on the first date. Hear replay at Love Coach Replay

Kristen Moeller is one of our upcoming shining stars at Real Coaching Radio Network. She is a life coach with a Master’s Degree in Counseling and 19 years of experience in the field of personal development and self-discovery. She has a commitment to every person she touches on her journey not to have them stop believing in themselves. Her radio show “What are you waiting for” airs on RCRN in multi-media every Tuesday at 12:00pm PST/3:00pm EST. Her distinguished guest will be Dr. Joan Borysenko on October 28th, Tuesday at 12:00pm PST/3:00pm EST. She is a pioneer in integrative medicine and is a world-renowned expert in the mind/body connection. More about Dr. Joan Borisenko: Dr. Borysenko’s warmth and credibility—plus her lively sense of humor—create a compelling presence. You can access video clips of Joan’s inspirational reflections in the Community Members section of her Web site. She also hosts a weekly Internet radio show, Your Soul’s Compass, for Hay House and Joan is one of the most popular and sought after speakers in the field of health, healing, and spirituality, her engaging and well researched presentations are perfect both for professionals and for the general public. http://www.joanborysenko.com/index.cfm More about Kristen Moeller: Her challenge to the world is to stop waiting and looking outside ourselves for the answer and start being “a fierce disruption the ordinary!” Her soon to be published book Waiting for Jack explores this topic. She asks powerful questions like; Are you living the life of which you have always dreamed? Are you looking outside yourself for answers? Are you searching but not finding? Do you find yourself waiting for your “real” life to start? visit Kristen’s web-sites: http://www.becausecoaching.com or http://waitingforjack.com/index.html More about Real Coaching Radio Network: Our network produces 30 one hour radio shows weekly. Real Coaching Radio Network is a multi media social broadcasting network putting a new spin on coaching and personal development. It features prominent coaches & entrepreneurs from around the world in seven different disciplines essential for life balance. Our segments include: Health, Finances, Relationships, Personal Growth, Environment, Career, Spirituality and Self-Publishing. Listen to our shows at http://www.realcoachingradio.com or join our social network at http://rcrn.info

You may not know this, and if you haven't yet been a victim of a romance scam you wouldn't, but there are two main types of Romantic Financial Predatory strategies, and it will behoove you to know and understand both. I have dubbed each with its own nickname. The Hit and Run: This is the most common (or at least the most commonly reported). These guys (and gals) will usually conduct the entire relationship on-line. You will never actually meet them in person, but you will be convinced you two are in love. Many of these predators request money for a plane ticket to come for a visit (offering a variety of excuses as to why they cannot pay for it themselves). Since they are usually "working overseas" in the UK or Africa, the ticket will range in price from $2,000 to $3,500 in general. The "mark" (you) buys the ticket, and on the designated day, runs out to the airport ready to meet your true love, and after hours of waiting will return home knowing you were scammed. You were hit, and they ran. While it will be painful, at least it's only a few thousand dollars. The other type of scam allows the predator to dig way deeper into your pockets, and can be far more dangerous. The Milk Man: In this situation, the first contact can be from anywhere, online, at work, out at a bar, the relationship will seem real and you will have face to face contact with this person. Once the relationship begins, it will follow many of the same patterns as the Hit and Run, (for example, the person will pretend to be deeply in love with you quickly and will ask you for money) but with one crucial difference, this person will take more time to build your trust and will be firmly in place in your life, perhaps even living with you, by the time you figure out you are being taken. This type of predator will gradually "milk" you for every dollar you have, if you allow the relationship to continue. I know, I put over $212,000 into my predator's bank account in less than 6 months and ended up filing for bankruptcy. (Can't imagine how it could happen? read my book! http://www.romanticpredator.com) It is much, much harder to get away from this type of predator, which is why it is that much more important to really understand the romantic predator and dating scams, so you DON'T get involved in the first place. My new book, I Take Thee: How to Spot a Romantic Financial Predator and What to Do If You Are Already Involved focuses on the relationship with the "Milk Man." This type of dating scam is more difficult to spot than the on-line scams, and ties up more of your life. Go to my website to learn more...http://www.romanticpredator.com